Safe Play

"Esha said...
Tell it Miss Harris, let us know about the woman who always play it safe and never lets that alter ego out because she wants to please other people ... Let the bitch out and let her be free!
Waiting fo Mo"


Let’s play a game. Let’s play it safe. Skip to the lou my darling! Do you really want to walk around wrapped in a huge Durex? Now, in certain situations playing it safe is a must. Who wants to end up on Maury or in a morgue when condoms are a much cheaper and less embarrassing option? When it comes to discovering who you truly are however, or your true potential, playing it safe will just cause you to miss your life. Reality check, time waits for no one! How many birthday candles have you blown out and still don’t have the life you want? How many goals have you set that you have not achieved? Have you even given up on setting them?

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~Marianne Williamson

Here we go Esha, to the heart of your request. The above quote is one of my favorites. It’s so accurate. When you’re playing it safe, you’re playing it scared. You choose comfort over greatness. How many relationships have you stayed in knowing you weren’t satisfied, but it was just familiar? Maybe you believed you couldn’t do better. Maybe you figured well he pays my bills, so I’m not going to rock the boat. How many times have you stayed at a job that made you dread waking up in the morning just because you knew it meant you had to go to work? Perhaps you rationalized to yourself that you have bills and you just have to accept that life isn’t always about doing what you want but about what you need to get done. Perhaps you believe you won’t get another job that’s as flexible, or pays as much so you stay. Perhaps you’ve even convinced yourself that it’s a recession so you have to take any job you can get. The amount of questions and rationales that have been created throughout time is endless. The reality is it’s all an excuse. You can pay your own bills. You can have the kind of relationship you want. You can have the career that satisfies your being (people it’s time to upgrade from jobs to careers! Find your passion and embrace it!). You can have the life you want, but you have to stop being a turtle, stick your head out of your shell and demand what you want. Demand it of yourself first, and then you will get it from others. What you will realize is that once you assert what you want and refuse to settle, somehow the cosmos align and the life you want begins to manifest. But this requires that you do not play it safe.

Do you really want to spend the rest of your life playing on the turf another person created for you? Who are you allowing to dictate your future, or your present? What past are you creating today? My sisters, you must realize you are the foundation of this world. Yeah, a man may hold it up, but trust we are the muscles that keep those arms strong enough to support that weight. If you are weak, your life with reflect that weakness. When you walk in a room if you are not a threat to at least one person in there something is missing. I’m not saying that you should be a beast and intimidate everyone. But even in your most gentle moment, your strength will humble another and even at times make them question themselves. And in inciting these questions you may help another find the answers to questions they didn’t even know they had. You cannot inspire anyone else to greatness until you yourself aspire to greatness. So the next time you want to complain about your man, your job, anything about your life, don’t even bother wasting your time. At that point you have the life you’ve settled for and until you are willing to have the life you want you’re going to continue to be singing the same sad tired old song. My time is too valuable for that croon, and yours should be too. And if you have friends that allow you to continue to do that karaoke you better check who is in your camp. Birds of a feather flock together, so are you rolling with chickens or eagles?

Your parents may have named you, but you still get to decide what name you will answer to. When demanding what you want of yourself and not allowing others to make you stumble while you strut, you may be labeled a bitch. But hey, there’s nothing wrong with allowing that alter you to come out. Next time someone calls you a bitch because you are asserting your opinion, simply say thank you and let that person know what that bitch’s name is. Beyonce calls her Sasha. Maria Carey calls her Mimi. Do you have a name for your alter ego yet? Are you even ready to have what you want yet?


Blog Challenge: Discover and name your alter ego. And as always feel free to share your sentiments here!